CFD Death Café

What is a Death Café?

Established in August 2013

In most settings, serious talk of one’s mortality would be a conversation stopper. At a CFD Death Café small groups of people sit together, eating cake and taking tea or coffee, and engage in casual conversation on the subject of dying and death. They speak of their own experiences, their fears, their wishes. They voice concerns and ask questions. They get comfortable with terms regarding the end of life. They speak of that which is discouraged in most situations—our very certain mortality.

In hosting CFD Death Cafés in the Hudson Valley, CFD hopes to build a community of caring and concern, one supportive of a Home for the Dying. CFD Death Cafés are held in restaurants, libraries, community centers, and houses of worship throughout Ulster and Dutchess Counties. Discussions have included information about green burial and other funeral options, religious traditions and spiritual beliefs about dying, do-not-resuscitate and advanced care directives—any aspect of one’s final scene in the play of life might be brought to the table. No one gets to proselytize or sell their own point of view. Everyone gets a chance to speak out. Life and death are celebrated—and cake is always served.

The CFD Death Café starts with a short presentation on topics related to end-of-life.

Recent topics include:

  • Advance Directives and the Legal Aspects of Dying
  • Talking about Dying with the Dying
  • Choices at the End-of-Life
  • Understanding Compassion Fatigue
  • The Shifting Climate of Funeral and Burial Options
  • Making Every Moment Count
  • The Wisdom Arts of Dying
  • Securing your LGBTQ Identity in Death
  • Memoir Writing Workshop

Having the greatest concern for the health and safety of our community and friends, we have postponed in-person CFD Death Café gatherings for the next three months. We will, however, be meeting virtually!

Join us for a virtual CFD Death Cafe, and keep the conversation going!  Stay tuned for details here on our events page and on Facebook.